Thursday, December 17, 2009
Money is the root of all evil
Sometimes I wish that I was poor again, I'm not incredibly rich now don't get me wrong but ever since I got my settlement (fell rappelling in TN..long story another time) people just love to ask me for money. Me being the nice person that I am almost always say yes and then no one wants to pay my back or get pissed when I actually ask for it?! Seriously what the hell, I've learned to not loan money out so much bc I'm the one that ends up in the whole and they're content to let me stay there. But I very stupidly loaned my girlfriend (who I happened to at the time trust) $2200 so she could by two four wheelers. Really stupid bc she doesn't need them, she really could have used the money for something more important like getting the car "I" gave her on the road, I could have really used the money for something I needed & wanted like to go towards my vintage clothing line. But anyways getting back to the point despite all that I loaned her the money and I knew, I KNEW it was going to end up being a problem. Right from the beginning we should have worked out some terms about how she was going to pay me back, I mentioned that but she just seemed so nonchalant and said she would just give me money whenever she could. About a month & a half later she's given me about $800 of what she owes me (this was not supposed to be a long term loan) and tells me she will be able to give me a good chunk of the rest when she gets her unemployment. Well here comes her unemployment and she can only give me $400, half of what she got. I'm really upset and stressed out bc I depended on that money to go towards Christmas presents, now I'm not going to have enough money for everything I needed. Then she's sitting there talking about going to spend $150 on a tattoo...while I'm stressing about money, money that SHE owes me! AARRGHH!!?!?!?!? So I send her a text about it, bc I just know she's going to flip when I say something about it. And guess what surprise surprise she does! I wasn't rude, or mean, I didn't yell or cuss, I just tried to have an adult rational conversation with her but she acted like a complete bitch and wanted to hang the phone up on me twice. So I told her to bring my mother f*ing car back (yeah the car that I bought that she gets to drive around everywhere) and that if she was going to act like this then it's over, I'm tired of it. She calls me and says she'll be here in a minute and acts likes it's no biggie, obviously she really doesn't want to be with me. I'm just so tired of this, tired of being taken advantage of, tired of being talked down to, tired of not being treated the way I should be, I'm f*ing tired of it. Moral of the story don't loan money to people ever and especially not to people that you are in a relationship with.
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So I tried to read your blog through the link and it didn't work. Then today I had the bright idea to type the link in and vwalla. It does seem to me that a lot of people have taken advantage of you after you got your settlement. I guess it would seem that all you had to do was start saying no. I do see that it is hard to say no. I would have a similar problem had I aqquired a sum of money. Unless, like you said they had a good plan to pay you back, then no should work. If these people really loved or respected you then that shouldn't be a problem if you said no. Maybe they aren't who you really know. At this point for you, I am surprised that you have this problem. No offense. For me, I think that if I was in your situation, by now I would've been talking to a lot less people if their problem with me was about money. There has to be a breaking point for you. If you don't find it then you will have the same problem over and over, and you won't have the right to complain about how people are taking advantage of you.
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